Indispensable Martyr aka Darth Vader | Awareness
Darth Vader, also known as Anakin Skywalker, can be seen as a representation of the abandonment wound. As a young Jedi, Anakin experienced the loss of his mother, which left a deep emotional scar within him. This wound, coupled with his fear of losing loved ones, ultimately led him down a path of darkness and despair.
Abandoned by those he cared about and struggling with his own inner demons, Darth Vader became a symbol of the pain and suffering that can arise from unresolved abandonment issues. His transformation into the Sith Lord highlights the destructive consequences of unhealed emotional wounds and the power they can hold over an individual.
Throughout the Star Wars saga, Darth Vader's journey serves as a cautionary tale, reminding us of the importance of addressing and healing our abandonment wounds to prevent them from consuming us and leading us astray.
The Darth Vader is the classic codependent of the villains. He is willing to do anything to avoid being abandoned by those he loves and he will sacrifice anything to ensure that is the case. He is ultimately self-sacrificial, not understanding that his own sacrifice is what hurts those around him, especially when his effort is not recognized. This inner part is willing to diminish their needs to nothing until they crack and kill all the padawans. In Star Wars, Darth Vader is a hero and works to be a Jedi Master. When he is continually overlooked for promotion his instinct to prevent being abandoned kicks in which allows him to move to the dark side. His redemption is seen in his martyrdom at the end of the Return of the Jedi.
Symptoms of this Villain:
-Human Design: Undefined Sacral Center (Projector, Reflector, Manifestor)
-Enneagram 2
-Abandonment Wound
-Codependence
-Resentment
-Inability to relax or accept help.
-Always trying to find some way to be the most useful person in the room.
-Internal State: Constantly mentally creating new ways to be valued by others
-Will often appear first as a rescuer
Inner Magic of this Villain: Compassion
Stages:
Stage 0: Origin Villain
Experiencing adults who did not or were not able to step up forced you to become an adult early.
A model of a rescuer in your life.
Stage 1: Internalization
Negations: “I am not enough” “I am not loveable unless I do things to be loveable”
“My needs are not as important as others”
Stage 2: Diversification
Rescuer Villain
Fear-based Villain (Feminine) who seeks love and approval through action
You can’t rest until… [fill in the blank]
Stage 3: Externalization
I finally get my payback and get to be loved because I have done enough.
I determine when I cash in my chips.
Witnessing the Turn of the Rescuer to the Persecutor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoXlO09I4fo
Longer Assessment of darth:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8MY5dgoT9U
Sacrifice Redemption of Darth Vader (spoilers)
5. Mr. Sensitive
Gaslighter extraordinaire. Open to his feelings, insecurities and fears. What he says is different to how he acts, to the point that you might think you're the abusive partner.
You might be afraid of speaking of his mistreatment of you. You'll think that if you speak of it to your friends, you'll be painted as a toxic and abusive partner.
You may one day be exhausted and insult him half-consciously, he will hold it against you for months if not years, no sincere apology would be enough for him. But, if he was to do the same to you, your emotions will be brushed off as ludicrous.
From: https://pairedlife.com/problems/10-Types-Of-Abusive-Men-According-To-Psychology